Category Archives: Love & Relationships

It is now illegal for your partner to do these 10 things in a relationship

This rather encouraging news brings hope to the many tens of thousands of partners in abusive relationships. I regularly help people that have escaped from these controlling partnerships and a recurring theme is the dawning realisation of how controlled and

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5 Lessons Most People Learn Way Too Late in Life

“If you are depressed, you are living in the past. If you are anxious, you are living in the future. If you are at peace, you are living in the present.” —Lao Tzu

This article reminds us of the

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Psychopaths cannot be cured — here’s why

Psychopathy, part of the dark triad personality disorders, is a real focus of study for me. Having been in employment with, a business partner of and indeed in a relationship with psychopaths, I understand first hand how toxic and destructive

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Why are we living in an age of anger – is it because of the 50-year rage cycle?

This rather fascinating article gives an insight of why the world is going through an angry phase: Donald Trump, Brexit, Immigrants etc etc. Statistics show that society typically goes through a cycle of forgetting how tough things were (who is

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Depressed men who don’t see a therapist regularly ‘are likely to turn to sex or porn – while women comfort eat’

So it is true what they say. Women eat and men look at porn when we are depressed. As a therapist I see more men now than I have ever done. It’s still not enough, however men are now starting

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Why psychopaths cannot love their own children

A familiar theme in my therapy room is people who have spent their life seeking the approval of a parent and never quite achieving it, no matter what they do. Typically being belittled, being ignored, told that a sibling is

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Guys, Bad News: Negative People Are Doing This to Your Brain

We all know a friend or colleague that drags us down. However a recent study shows how damaging that friend can be. Many of my clients adjust their social circle when they start to improve their lives, spending more time

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Go to Bed, Woman! 6 Reasons You Need More Sleep

Clients of mine will know how much I go on about getting those 6-8 hours in every night because of the importance of ’emptying our stress buckets’. The specific reason is that we need to get sufficient REM sleep (rapid

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How to Never Get Involved with a Psychopath, Narcissist or Sociopath—or Any Abuser—Ever Again

A subject most passionate to my heart: getting away fro sociopaths, psychopaths snd narcissists. This article is perfectly written and explains what to look for and to avoid.

If you have extracted yourself from such a relationship and ready to

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11 Ways You’re Secretly Ruining Your Relationship

This is a great little article regarding relationships and how you could be ruining them. Listed below are  11 pointers to look out for, and apart from number 5 (you’ll understand when you read it) you can apply all of

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